Saturday, 27 February 2010

Balancing the Brain: Finding Happiness

Brain State Technology:


The past year has been a joyous crazy roller coaster with an action packed calendar including; starting a new business, international travel, networking, relationships, business ventures, it’s all very exciting but can at times seem overwhelming. Last year I had a feeling like I wanted to press a giant pause button on life and just take a moment to breath, a moment to calibrate all this new information and be still with my emotions. Often life happens so quickly that our brains literally don’t have enough time to file everything neatly away into the right mental sock drawer, colour coding appropriately so we can find that thought easily the next time we reach for it.


While in Cape Town over December I had the privilege of discovering something that helped me sift through the mental sock drawer of my mind, do a bit of cleaning, find the lost socks and pair them up with their rightful partners ultimately balancing my thoughts and bringing me mental harmony. This process liberated me from old residual stress and anxieties, enabling me to be free from mental agitations and feel completely tranquil and deeply happy for the first time in many years. This incredible and fascinating process is called Brain Training.



Now some people might be asking… what on earth is that? And what do socks have to do with anything? My mother discovered Brain Training through a family friend who is a top psychiatrist specializing in the care of traumatized children. She had done brain training herself and found it so life-changing that she now sends the children she looks after to have the training as a part of their recovery treatment and rehabilitation.


So how does it work? Firstly, while sitting comfortably in a very large reclining chair (you will spend a lot of time in this chair!), electromagnetic pads are placed at strategic points on your brain then pulses are fed through the brain to receive a map of your brains activity. This map then serves as a guide for the practitioner to assess where your brain has stored trauma and how these agitations affect your daily life. The reading is so accurate it can process all your brains activity from the day that you were born, feeding back a record that can tell you at what age you experienced certain traumas and how your brain processed these experiences.



The map shows clearly whether your brain stored that information in the left or right hand cortex, whether you have a tendency to experience flight of freeze or if you are prone to depression, anxiety, sleep disorders or addictive behavior. It is a strangely wonderful and curious process that leaves you eager to learn more. The door to the surreal world of your inner most workings is opened. How fascinating to get a glimpse of the cogs working and also know you can get the mechanic in to grease the engine where needed!



It is recommended that one does at least 16 hours (although some will see results after 5 others may need up to 30 sessions). This would normally be broken down into 8 sessions of two hours each, done over a 3 week period as close together as possible, ideally doing 8 days of 2 hour sessions in a row. When committing to the process it is important not to take any stimulants such as coffee, alcohol or prescription drugs as this could alter the effectiveness of the training. Giving yourself this period of “clean living” makes it the ultimate time to consider doing an overall detox. My homage to the process was a daily vegetable juice and sauna. The body is the temple to the mind!


The way I like to describe Brain Training to my friends is to imagine that you were a humming bird sitting in a tree singing your humming bird song… merrily singing. As a happy humming bird you instinctively know what your own tune is. If, for instance you started tweeting like a nightingale or clucking like a chicken, you would immediately notice that something was wrong and you would re-harmonize until your tune sounded more like your normal humming-bird song.

This is the basic principal of Brain Training. While you are hooked up with electrodes, your brain activity creates electromagnetic energy - captured and observed as brain waves with EEG amplifiers and computers. The computers then process the brain wave information and translate the brain waves into an optimized pattern in the form of sound waves which are then played back to you through earphones. Then for the first time ever, you brain gets the chance to listen to its own tune. It’s like the humming bird listening to its song for the first time and realizing where it is out of tune. Your brain then starts to instinctively re tune itself, balancing brain waves to achieve an ultimate state of harmony. Storing the files where they should be and ironing out agitations. This is the state we all search for in life. That quiet still inner place that sits close to your soul.



I found the experience to be life-changing and am still seeing on going changes three months down the line. My brain maps showed that I had a VERY busy mind, prone to anxiety and sleeplessness. This was true. I had come to Brain Training in the hopes of relieving my anxiety and depression and freeing me from compulsive over-thinking. A virtue if one wants to get a lot done but also a suffocating prison that can take the joy out of spontaneous living. During my first session they made me close my eyes and visualize happy moments in my life. As I listened to my brain waves I could feel ripples of powerful emotion come over me. It felt as though my brain was letting go of old energy, releasing sad emotion without actually having to relive or remember the event that caused the pain.


They told me that I may feel very tired during the first week due to all the information and new neurological connections being made, however, I actually felt unbelievably energetic, waking up at 5h30am, wide-eyed with the sudden urge to spring from my bed, tidy my room and hop onto my bicycle 2 hour cycle rides up the coast (if only this was every day!). Eventually after 5 days of this insanely energetic thirst for life I pleaded that they stimulate my sleep neurons. This did the trick.

After day six I was so very tired I literally could not even get out of my pajamas. I proceeded to shuffled around the house wrapped in a big blanket for three days. CSI crime scene investigations and medical detective re-runs were mercilessly watched for hours. Chocolate was eaten. Thank god it was the Christmas holidays or I may have felt very guilty for my unproductive behavior. We even had a house guest who had met me one day one of my sleepy grumpy blanket shuffling behavior and jokingly named me “blanket girl”. I like to think of this time as the period where my body was cocooning like a caterpillar, resting, nourishing and transforming into a butterfly.



Brain balance and harmony is the first step to well being and optimization. Balance in the brain, is subsequently followed by balance in the body. The condition of balance and harmony for the brain is known as homeostasis. It is a “level playing field” for your brain to respond to thinking, feeling, and healing your body in an optimized state. Your brain acts as the hub of the wheel, your nervous system the spokes and your body the rim. When the hub is out of balance everything else suffers.

“Brainwave Optimization with Real Time Balancing – is based on brain observance. It is based on a Quantum Physics vs.a Newtonian Physics understanding of the individual, and this philosophical difference cannot be too heavily stressed. Brainwave Optimization with RTB seeks to show the brain itself – be a mirror for the brain in its ever more optimized state. The client is not trained with learned behavior. In fact, while not optimal, a client may sleep through a session and still realize results because the brain can view itself without direct client participation.”



On the last day of my training I cried and smiled and then fell asleep in the chair. I drove home from the last session with my radio on full blast and remember staring out the window at these beautiful birds gliding in the blue sky… wow… those birds are so amazing… I couldn’t believe how beautiful being alive felt; like suddenly I was plugged into life. I drove to the sea and sat on a bench staring at the ocean… light glittering off the waves… birds flying in the horizon. I smiled for four hours non-stop. My cheeks hurt and strangers probably thought “what on earth is she so happy about?”. I felt an over whelming joy and ecstasy for no particular reason. This is the best part. Why do we have to have a reason to feel this happy? It occurred to me that this was how we are suppose to feel all the time! It is my wish that every one get to experience this feeling. I hope that as many people as possible discover Braining Training and through the process find their own inner balance and joy.

The importance of happiness: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/8599728.stm

There is a great link on the BBC website with Matthew Stadlen's, Five Minutes With... philosopher AC Grayling on free will and happiness: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/8599728.stm





Brain State Technology has been shown to help with the following:

Anxiety • Depression • Panic Attacks • Lack of focus • Memory Problems Addictions • ADD/ADHD • Sleep Issues • Stress • Anger • PTSD • Brain Injury • Learning Disorders • Pain Mitigation • Dementia • Sexual Function • Sports Performance and more Brain State Technology is currently being used by practitioners in over 17 countries, helping their clients restore balance and harmony for a more effective life.



Bristol / Bath: Symphonic Mind: +44 (0)117 973 3509
Isle of Wight: LIFE'S PaLEtt: +44 (0)1983 531424

Info@BrainStateTech.com



Wednesday, 24 February 2010

The Good Life- evening celebrations!

A warm welcome to our new experts!

With the clinking of merry glasses, The Glamorous Good life has started the year successfully with the first gathering of our glamorous good-living team!


On Tuesday 16th Feb, we all braved the London rain to get together for our first evening of chit chat, networking and general introductions at the very charming Truc Vert restaurant in Mayfair. It’s important to lay the foundations by getting the right people connected and it’s so rewarding to see how collaborations then grow organically and develop lives of their own.

With an impressive turnout of over 40 people, it was pleasing to listen to the experts discussing linking their projects, inviting each other to up-coming events and cross-referring clients. This is what it’s all about! Coming together as an informed and passionate group of therapists we have the combined power to really make a holistic difference to people’s lives. We are constantly learning about new health and life-style developments and strive to keep each other up-to-date and thirsty for more information.

2010 brings the exciting arrival of five new experts to the panel:


1. Lisa Bathurst- Wardrobe & Style Coach


2. Dannii Johns- Exclusive Personal Assistant

3. Nicky Weston- Massage Therapist


4. Antonia Harman- Energy Healer


5. John Best- Personal Trainer


Our clients will certainly not be short for choice with The Glamorous Good Life’s impressive spectrum of tailored services.

It gives me great pleasure to welcome, the Life Organizer Queen, Dannii Johns to our platform. Danni will be bringing over 10 years Personal Assistant and networking experience to The Glamorous Good Life and will assist us in cross-referring therapists and looking after special clients supporting a multitude of their lifestyle needs.


Dannii Johns

Dannii offers support to private individuals, working from their home or virtually, from as little as a few hours to a full day. She can help simplify your life in many ways; organising your filing, booking your hair and grooming appointments, looking at your domestic supplier bills and reducing outgoing costs, sourcing workmen from a trusted list of suppliers, being at your home for appliance installations and deliveries, organising holidays, planning functions, acting as a concierge service for theatre tickets and restaurant bookings, collecting dry cleaning, taking your car to have it serviced or simply reminding you that your pet needs its annual vaccination.


Having the experience of working for high profile individuals and alongside other staff, Dannii takes the stress out of your life by doing the things that most people either simply don’t have the time to do effectively, or just don’t have the inclination to do regardless of time.


Style Icon and Glamour Goddess, Lisa Bathurst will be waving her style wand over us and giving the Good Life team a fabulous image revamp.


Lisa Bathurst

An expert in image and style, Lisa is one of the country’s leading image consultants. She helps
brand clients to achieve specific goals in both their personal and professional lives. Using a holistic approach, Lisa believes that inner confidence and outer style is the key to achieving potential. Following a prosperous modeling career, traveling and working with the worlds most prestigious brands and fashion houses, Lisa experienced first hand what differentiates the ordinary from the extraordinary. Armed with NLP, psychology and coaching qualifications, she began to enjoy helping people to motivate themselves to better things. Ironically, despite trying desperately to get away from the world of image, it soon became apparent that people had to be happy with their outer image to let their inner well-being shine through.

Consequently she set about to design a service that combined her impeccable eye for style with her instinctive desire to help people reach their potential. In 2007, Lisa founded Urbanity London, UK’s only image consultancy for men. With a loyal clientele that includes city executives, media and sports persons around the globe, Urbanity creates distinctive images, giving clients a magnetic presence, whilst staying true to their goals and personalities.


Lisa’s insider trend up-date:

'Brash and Flash' is out; styling with 'insider know-how' is in!

“Yes, in today's modern world, it seems that being able to identify designer details is far more important than blatant logos, which quite frankly, have become common place and a bit cheap. Take Burberry for example, who's easily recognised 'plaid' used to be the pinnacle of British class and sophistication; now its more likely to be associated with chav culture than the lavish well-heeled. Understated details, worn more discreetly, such as furs on the inside or diamonds on the underside of rings and watches, would only be appreciated by those connoisseurs in the know, and that's the bonafide benchmark of affluence.”- Lisa Bathurst

The range of services offered by Lisa include:

• Image analysis
• First impression enhancement
• Personal branding
• Image styling
• Wardrobe design
• Dedicated private shopping
• On-going image management

http://www.urbanitylondon.com/

Thursday, 31 December 2009

The Wedding Dance

Happiness is...


I think it is only fitting to celebrate the start of 2010 with The Wedding Dance! Weddings are symbols of new beginnings. 2010 is the year of union and love. I will be skipping to this tune each step of the way!


Jill & Kevin's Wedding- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0

This song encapsulates the meaning of pure happiness, exuberance and elated LOVE. It makes you want to dance and sing and cry, to hold you hands up high and smile to the heavens. It is a song that makes you believe in the united joy we all share. All of us can connect to this magical place. It is a moment of that makes me believe in something greater

May this next year fill your hearts with joy. May your dreams come true. May you find your destiny. Always reach of the stars!


LONDON MEMORIES:


I can’t remember the last time I felt this good. It was a moment a pure joy and comes from a place we all have but hardly ever let out. It surprised me to see that this place of happiness was there all along.


“It’s you and me… moving of the speed of light into eternity…”

“tonight is the night and join me in the middle of ecstasy… feel the melody and the rhythm of the music around you…”


I started to look around me and really see what was there. Orange autumn trees swaying, crunching leaves and the most beautiful radiating beams of light shining through crisp morning clouds illuminating the duck pond and happy swans.


we can go anywhere take my hand and come with me….It’s like I’ve waited my whole life...”

it’s you and me on the dance floor…. double your pleasure double your fun!!

Forever on the dance floor…


My god, had it always been this beautiful? Was it me? I was dancing in Hyde Park like a happy loony with a huge grin on my face… quite frankly I couldn’t care if I looked mad to the cyclists and power-walking office workers. I danced all the way home and decided I wanted to dance some more so I repeated the song and had a right old dance in the kitchen- thinking to myself that I must be crazy but being crazy was a lot of fun.


“Sending for an angel… what a beautiful lady… I won’t let you fall… let you fall

oh yeh yeh”


May 2010 feel like dancing to the wedding song!


x


Friday, 11 December 2009

The UBUNTU education fund

The UBUNTU education fund


The Ubuntu Education Fund- A dream in the making


Fly to Port Elizabeth to visit 10th-11th December


I was fortunate enough to be introduced to Ubuntu through a dear friend and former client, Farah Alaghband. Like a true angel, Farah is known for her generosity and kind spirit and who better than to spread the word. Ubuntu has only recently opened its London fund-raising branch but this hasn’t stopped the good will spreading at a rate of knots. The moment Farah spoke of Ubuntu I immediately got excited tingles and knew that this was a gift; something I had been waiting to do, something connected to my home, South Africa, the land where my heart lies. I endeavoured at that moment to put my heart into making a difference and helping lay a few building blocks on the Ubuntu dream. There is something magical that happens when people come together in the spirit of giving.



The more I learn about Ubuntu the more it becomes clear that this is something special: In 1999 two men, Jacob Lief (meaning LOVE in Afrikaans!) and Malizole “Banks” Gwaxula, founded Ubuntu Education Fund on the philosophy of ubuntu; a universal bond of sharing that connects all of humanity—I am because you are. With the goal of transforming the lives of the children of Port Elizabeth, South Africa, Ubuntu Education Fund is a non- profit organisation providing over 40,000 orphaned and vulnerable children in Port Elizabeth, South Africa with life-saving health services and vital educational resources.
Ubuntu has over 80 full time staff in South Africa with fund-raising offices in London and New York. The Ubuntu Model has become a blueprint for organisations around the world that strive for culturally appropriate, community-based development. Ubuntu’s child-centred approach high-lights the difference between merely touching a child’s life versus fundamentally changing it.


Going home to Cape Town for Christmas enabled me to plan the next step of the Ubuntu journey. Jacob and his team kindly invited me to visit their centre in Port Elizabeth for two days. I, in turn, invited my mother to join me! This was not just for her excellent company; she also has twenty years experience running job creation projects for the disadvantaged in the arts and craft sectors.


The director of Montebello Design Centre in Newlands Cape Town, My mother currently oversees a project called Mealie, employing over 180 HIV positive township women. She has a keen eye for business and has a knack for making something of nothing. This is a good thing in Africa when more than often you start off with nothing. What was once a plastic bag or an old T-shirt could be transformed into a well-designed piece of craft that could generate much needed income. I felt lucky having her by my side as her knowledge and experience added much value.
http://www.montebello.co.za/about.html



Qondeakele greeted us at the airport with a big smile. We were going to experience a full “day in the life” of Ubuntu. Qondeakele first drove us to meet the mobile HIV testing van. This ground-breaking concept makes HIV testing more accessible to the public; Testing up to 20 people a day, the van, normally located at the local shopping centres makes getting tested more convenient and discreet, especially for shy individuals who fear the stigma attached to been seen walking into a clinic.



What I was really impressed by was that they had an on site counsellor to provide support and education to individuals who tested positive. They also go a step further and do follow up visits at the patients homes, making sure they have a supportive environment and that they are taking anti-retroviral drugs. The wide spreading impact of their work is mind blowing. It is also apparent that it takes a large dedicated taskforce to deal with the sheer volume of cases. Official figures say there is an 80% unemployment rate in PE and a staggering 60% are HIV positive. This put my life quickly into perspective.

The jovial Gcobani, then showed us around the site where they are constructing a very impressive community centre. The Building rises proudly out of the township as a statement that anything is possible and we must all dream big. A pillar of hope, the centre will house a state-of-the-art clinic, pharmacy, library, counseling centre, computer facilities and even a roof garden. It really is a symbol of forward thinking and a mighty achievement for Ubuntu. It will be finished in 2010 in time for the annual gala in London in May. This will be a pivotal moment in the development of the charity and I hope as many people as possible will contribute to making the dream a reality.



The centre will allow us to expand and strengthen our existing service. The Ubuntu Centre will enable us to provide: 15,000 children with essential lifeskills classes40,000 youth with HIV prevention outreach services600 families with comprehensive case management services600 orphans and vulnerable children with after school programmes and school holiday day camps2200 children and 160 families with a daily, nutritious meal from our community gardens1200 clients with HIV counselling, testing and treatment support each monthClinic management and capacity building in 5 clinics serving 400,000 people4,000 youth with career guidance 15,000 children with weekly computer education 7,000 children with regular access to libraries2,000,000 condoms to local communities



On the plane trip home my mother and I came up with many ideas for how the community could generate income, becoming self sufficient through learning simple business skills and making craft that sells. My mother was seriously impressed with the excellent running of the centre. All of the people involved from the ground up are so passionate, knowledgeable and committed. Each of them has even pledged a percentage of their own salary to go towards the building of the new community centre. There is a real spirit of sharing and giving. Needless to say, after showing us such generosity and dedicating their whole day to us, Qondeakele, Banks and Gcobani definitely invited to come have lunch at Montebello with my mother and I the next time they are in Cape Town.

Thursday, 5 November 2009

SIMON COWELL’s 50th BIRTHDAY SATURDAY 3rd OCT @ ROTHAM PARK


"My dream team of experts get me ready for Simon's Cowell's party"

Dress: Vlasta Cullo
Make-up: Lina Cameron

Hair: Dar Singh




When the most beautiful thick blue velvet envelope slipped (barely) under our door, it was unwrapped like a favorite sweet. An invitation from the king to his dear friend! Paul and I knew this was going to be a night to remember and I would be accompanying my gorgeous man as his Cinderella. A treat to savor! All across London, similar tantalizing invitations were being secretly delivered and the whispers of excitement were growing.


Normally when there’s a big party I’m the last one to be planning my outfit. More than often relying on a last minute “open my closet and hope something works approach” but this time I’m taking the “oh my gosh better look seriously hot!” approach. This was also gently prompted by receiving various excited text messages from girl friends telling me about their super hot (and probably super expensive) ensembles. I can feel the cold sweat starting! I wanted to make my man proud and look like a princess.

It is after all, it is Simon Cowell’s 50th Birthday party and how often does that come around? When I start thinking about the guest list it puts it into context. I mean seriously, think about who is going to be there- all the BIG names in every industry! The fabulousness will be off the scales. This changes the stakes. Professional help is needed!

Bring out secret weapon- “action dream team”: expert couture dress maker- Vlasta Cullo, celebrity make-up artist to the stars- Lina Cameron and the legendary Dar, the master of seriously sexy hair himself. Thank my lucky stars I have such talented people in my life. We are all due to meet 15H30 sharp at Hari’s Salon in Kensington to unleash the creative genius and get the product out and into that stretch limo looking the part…. I’m going for a sultry 1950’s movie star look wearing a back-less floor length smoldering satin red dress.

Put like that it all sounds so effortless, but don’t be fooled, this was an operation of organizing and collaboration.


Two weeks prior to the big day I still had nothing to wear and time was ticking. My fabulous globe trotting girl-friends where calling me innocently to discuss their fabulous outfits. Kelly planned to wear a cleavage-busting gold Armari number and all Lauren was letting out was that her ensamble was dazzling with sparkles. Needless to say, both of these girls are supremely beautiful and have exquisite taste. We are keeping the standards high ladies. I could feel a cold sweat about to break.


I had been searching high and low but alas, I could not find a dress. My dear friend Lina suggested I use Vlasta Cullo, one of London’s top bridal and evening wear designers whose creations have graced the pages of countless bridal magazines. Having worked with Vlasta at many bridal shows was very impressed with Vlasta’s precision cuts and attention to detail. With the pressure mounting, she could not have come at a better time. We had 8 days to go so I called Vlasta and we scheduled an emergency fitting for that evening. I arrived at her South Woodford studio and was greeted by the angelic Vlasta. After trying on a few sample dresses we found the winner, selected the deep red fabric and chose the accessories. The dress would be ready the day before the party. This made me think of the saying “ a stitch in time saves nine”. Phew!

It was the morning of the ball and the day of preparations lay before me. First stop; pick up the dress from Vlasta at the designer wedding show. It was like entering a magical dream land of white lacey satin silk with happy smiling mother and daughter teams. Amidst a sea of white, bright lights, flowers and fairy cakes I stood in my red dress, Vlasta stitching the fabric to fit me like a glove. It did, in a surreal way feel like a wedding day- a special moment. We wrapped the precious cargo and I jumped into a taxi.

Second stop: Hari’s Hair Salon to meet my dear friend, celebrity make-up artist Lina Cameron who would be starting on my make-up before handing me over to the talented Dar who would be creating a hair masterpiece to complete the look. I love walking into Haris. It’s the anticipation of being greeted in the warm excited frenzy of blow-drying, coffee and gossip. What a buzz. Let’s get me ready!


For Lina, make-up is art. She really focuses on understanding each individual client and the look they really want. During the make-up stage, she infuses her work with genuine love and passion almost as if she were creating an extended layer to one’s auric field, positively changing the way a client feels. It is wonderful to think that something as seemly simple as make-up has the power to alter the way we perceive ourselves. It can change our moods, or feelings, our thoughts and transform us into princesses!




Lina has done my make-up many times before… including my first date with Paul (don’t tell him though- men are supposed to think we always look that good. No effort required!). Each time I’ve always felt delighted. Lina has a wonderful happy energy and a soft touch with the brush, often dancing around me a smiling as she works. To the envy of the surrounding Saturday salon ladies, Lina started to transform me into a sultry 1950’s movie star with lushes smokey eyes and va va voom lashes. Oh, how I love lashes. Between all this transformation, Kelly and I were messaging each other across the salon (sitting only yards from each other!), each enjoying notching up the excitement barometer.


With only an hour to go it was up to Dar to put the cherry on the top. Dar makes everyone feel so special and has a luminescent personality- you can’t help but have a constant grin on your face. With Dar, it’s 20% hair and 80% magic. He took one look at my make-up and dress and like a true master, crafted a bespoke classic up-style with effortless ease. He believes in understanding the whole look from top to bottom and making sure the hair compliments the look. Watching him work is fascinating. It is obvious that he is talented and having worked with countless A-list celebrities including Goldie Horn, Katie Derham (and even Simon himself back in the 80’s) all confirms this.


Dar and Lina whisk me into the street for an impromptu wind swept shot of the dream team in the dusky streets of London. As passing cars merrily hoot their approval we know that we have definitely got the X factor.


Five minutes to go and Paul calls to say the Limo is waiting. Quick, get in to the pumpkin taxi and get to the ball for a night of splendor. It is indeed a glamorous good life!